Transform your attachment wounds into your attachment gifts
Join us for a live workshop series on The Attachment Blueprints™ — a personalised path through modern love's greatest challenge. For singles and couples.
You didn't come here to settle
The Knowing
There is a possibility of relationship... grounded yet passionate... secure and stable without losing any of the fire.
A relationship that heals and grows... filled with play, love and adventure... a partnership ripe with the potential and the power to work together to create the life you came here to live.
Do you know this dream?
You didn't come here to settle
The Knowing
There is a possibility of relationship... grounded yet passionate... secure and stable without losing any of the fire.
A relationship that heals and grows... filled with play, love and adventure... a partnership ripe with the potential and the power to work together to create the life you came here to live.
Do you know this dream?
Yet something keeps holding you back
The Pattern
But underneath the dream, something else gets in the way.
Push-pull. Fights about needs that no matter how often they are spoken... never seem to get met. A pattern that rears its head every time the intimacy grows too close... with the same predictable sabotage.
The wounds are as real, and as deep, as the potential... left unhealed and unintegrated the dream will always feel just out of reach... until the pattern is broken.
And then, finally, you reveal the gifts you've always had
The Reclamation
The answer has always lived within you.
The pattern was just a protection, a strategy formed long ago doing its best to try and get you what you needed.
But when you discover how to truly meet that need inside yourself... the pattern transforms into the gift that you give, the skill that you have and the power that you are.
And then everything changes.
And then, finally, you reveal the gifts you've always had
The Reclamation
The answer has always lived within you.
The pattern was just a protection, a strategy formed long ago doing its best to try and get you what you needed.
But when you discover how to truly meet that need inside yourself... the pattern transforms into the gift that you give, the skill that you have and the power that you are.
And then everything changes.
The Path
The Way Out is Through
Every wound has a shape.
Every strategy has a purpose.
Every pattern has a path back to the gift.
Recognise
The wound reveals a shape you can identify. What has been running your unconscious becomes something you can see... and the pattern finally stops being who you believed that you were.
Repattern
With awareness to see the old strategies you can now choose to do something different. The more you practice this new way of being, the more the pattern breaks.
Rise
You start becoming who you were always meant to be. The unconscious pattern has transformed into a conscious gift... and with it... you become free.
The Attachment Blueprints™
4 Unique Paths. 1 Destination.
The relationship you actually came here to live.
The Map
Introduction to the Blueprints
Before you can walk the path, you have to have the map.
Every relationship you have ever had has been shaped by two invisible forces and four core needs that live beneath the surface. When the wounded version of these forces and needs are active, relationships suffer. When the healthy version of these forces and needs are active, relationships thrive.
This workshop makes it all visible.
You will learn the two axes of attachment, the four blueprints they produce, and where your own pattern sits within this landscape.
This is the map of attachment. Once you have it, you'll know how to explore the terrain and find your way out of the attachment challenges that every relationship has to face.
Live Workshop
15th August 5-7pm PST
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Preoccupied Anxious
The Connection Blueprint
There is a distinct kind of exhaustion in being the one who always wants to be connected. The one who is always reaching out. The one who knows that even though their needs are being felt as a burden, can't stop that ache from burning deep inside them.
Underneath the reaching is a need older than this relationship. Older than they can remember.
This workshop meets that need. It shows what the reaching has been trying to secure, and how to meet it from inside.
And once that need is met from within, the void becomes what it was always meant to be... a grace and skill that can create the exact kind of deep, sustained connection that was being reached for all along.
Live Workshop
15th August 5-7pm PST
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Preoccupied Avoidant
The Attunement Blueprint
Something inside flinches at the moment of being seen. The yearning to be met has always been there... and so has the somatic memory that something is about to go wrong. The body recoils and runs even though the heart is trying to open.
Fear of getting too close. Fear of getting too far away. Locked in an internal battle that has gone on far too long.
It's time to bring an end to this inner tension. It's time to soften and soothe the nervous system. It's time to teach the body that everything can actually be ok.
As inner safety finally lands... a profound ability to dance and delicately weave into the depths of intimacy is restored. The gift was always there, it just needed the alarm to be turned off first.
Live Workshop
15th August 5-7pm PST
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Preoccupied Avoidant
The Attunement Blueprint
Something inside flinches at the moment of being seen. The yearning to be met has always been there... and so has the somatic memory that something is about to go wrong. The body recoils and runs even though the heart is trying to open.
Fear of getting too close. Fear of getting too far away. Locked in an internal battle that has gone on far too long.
It's time to bring an end to this inner tension. It's time to soften and soothe the nervous system. It's time to teach the body that everything can actually be ok.
As inner safety finally lands... a profound ability to dance and delicately weave into the depths of intimacy is restored. The gift was always there, it just needed the alarm to be turned off first.
Live Workshop
15th August 5-7pm PST
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Dismissive Anxious
The Alignment Blueprint
It always feels interesting and exciting at the beginning. The hopes that this could finally be it... and then the incremental disappointment as the flaws inevitably become louder than the hope. A restless tension and quiet despair. Somehow no-one can ever quite live up to... it.
There's something not quite right about this story, yet it's still being written. It doesn't make sense that nobody is good enough, and yet nobody feels like they can truly meet the thing inside that HAS to be met.
The longing to be fully met in this vision for life is real but the reaction that finds the fault in anyone who could is false. It's just a pattern, and it has to be broken.
Once the false spell is broken, then the magic of reality can finally arrive. The gift wasn't in being able to see what was missing, rather it was always about the ability to truly co-create with another.
Live Workshop
15th August 5-7pm PST
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Dismissive Avoidant
The Freedom Blueprint
The need for space is as necessary as the way everyone else needs air. Nobody seems to get that, but it's true.
Closeness has always come with a risk, it's far too easy to get lost in someone else's stuff. Their needs consuming and taking over everything until there is no room left to breathe. No thank you.
Everyone thinks that the desire for intimacy isn't there. They are wrong. It is... but not at the cost of losing the self. Freedom was never about being a lone wolf... it was about choice. The choice to open when the time is right.
Reclaiming the gift of timing is what transforms the whole landscape of relationship. The need to run diminishes as the strength to manage the tempo of intimacy grows. Love unfolds beautifully when it moves at a sustainable speed.
Live Workshop
15th August 5-7pm PST
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Dismissive Avoidant
The Freedom Blueprint
The need for space is as necessary as the way everyone else needs air. Nobody seems to get that, but it's true.
Closeness has always come with a risk, it's far too easy to get lost in someone else's stuff. Their needs consuming and taking over everything until there is no room left to breathe. No thank you.
Everyone thinks that the desire for intimacy isn't there. They are wrong. It is... but not at the cost of losing the self. Freedom was never about being a lone wolf... it was about choice. The choice to open when the time is right.
Reclaiming the gift of timing is what transforms the whole landscape of relationship. The need to run diminishes as the strength to manage the tempo of intimacy grows. Love unfolds beautifully when it moves at a sustainable speed.
Live Workshop
15th August 5-7pm PST
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Inclusions
What you're getting
Six elements designed to work together as a living process of transformation.
Each Attachment Blueprint receives its own personalised guidance and practices.
Deep Dive Workshop
A live two-hour session offering insights and embodiment practices to begin the process of repatterning.
Integration Guide
A written companion guide filled with daily micro-practices, journal prompts, and habit shifts that turn insight into lived change.
Somatic Meditation
Soothe and rewire the nervous system. Let old patterns drop away and new positive pathways form from the inside out.
Inner Child Journey
Meeting the younger self who was first wounded, and offer them what they never received. Healing from the inside out.
EFT Pattern Clearing
Break free of the emotional charge that keeps the pattern locked in the body, heart and mind.
Breathwork Practice
Bring the body into a parasympathetic and relaxed state where healing is given the space to happen naturally.
Take the next step
The workshops begin soon.
The patterns you've been running are worn out.
Join us... heal your wounds and unlock your gifts.
Pricing
Follow Your Blueprint... or Learn them all
Select the option that works for you.
Single workshop
$95 USD
Introduction to the Blueprints Module
Lifetime access to your blueprint workshop
Blueprint specific resources:
Integration Guide
Guided Somatic Meditation
Guided Inner Child Journey
Guided EFT Pattern Clearing
Guided Breathwork Practice
*Choose your workshop at checkout
Full Series Bundle
$250 USD
Introduction to the Blueprints Module
All four blueprint workshops
Lifetime access to all recordings
All practices and guides
Exclusive Bonus Modules:
The Attachment Blueprints in Dating
The Attachment Blueprints in Relationship
Discover the six possible relationship pairings between blueprints, the challenges each faces and the unique solutions required - in dating and relationship.
*Payment plan available
What people say
Past participants share what this work has meant for them.
"This has been nothing short of life changing! Even though I had worked as a therapist for most of my life I found myself struggling when deep attachment wounds and traumas arose. This work offered me significant improvement in my nervous system and my relationships.
"As someone who wasn’t allowed to take up space in the world as a child, Damien’s work gave me specific trauma-informed exercises that allowed me to finally feel more confident moving through the world safer in my own skin."
"I consider the time I have spent in this work as an extraordinary juncture in my personal growth and development. The knowledge and insights gained from his teachings have proven to be pivotal and have had a profound impact on my life."
Your Guides on the Journey
Damien & Katie Tælos
Damien and Katie are the founders of Evolve Relating, where they guide individuals and couples in creating conscious, embodied growth-oriented partnerships.
Damien brings a decade of experience in coaching and facilitation, alongside training in counselling and psychotherapy. He has a gift for weaving together attachment theory, nervous system science, masculine/feminine polarity, and developmental psychology into frameworks that make complex relational dynamics accessible and practical. Katie, trained as an Art Therapist and in EFT and Breathwork, brings a spiritual and intuitive dimension to the work. With a background in energy work and soul embodiment, she has a gift for sensing the wisdom of the subtle realms and translating it into felt experience. She guides people back into their bodies - into their human presence and the innate intelligence that dwells withins.
Together, we live and breathe this work - testing frameworks in our own relationship, moving through challenges in real-time, and holding space for each other's growth.
"Conscious relationship isn't about perfection, it's about coming back to each other, again and again, with more awareness, more compassion, and more choice each time."
FAQ
Some of the questions you might have...
What if I can't make the live workshop?
The workshops are recorded, with recordings available within 48 hours of the session ending. The workshops are designed so that the recording carries the same depth as being there live. You'll retain lifetime access to any workshop recording you purchase so don't worry if you can't make it live, the biggest benefit is actually in all the resources and guided practices that you'll be getting with your purchase.
What's the benefit of the bundle over an individual blueprint?
There are several reasons why learning about all the Attachment Blueprints is relevant. Firstly you are going to end up in relationship, or are in a relationship, with someone with a different blueprint. That's how it works, it's very rare that the same blueprint is attracted to itself. Knowing about the other blueprints gives you an understanding of how your partner, or potential partner functions. You can also share it with them. Secondly, we all have all four attachment needs. Healing often happens in layers, and as you heal you might start to reveal aspects the resemble more of one of the other blueprints, and this resource will help you be able to move through that if it does. Thirdly is that it's common to exhibit different blueprint patterns in different types of relationship, for example romantically you might show up differently than with friends or family. Fourth... the bonuses are pretty sweet, and worth it.
How do I know which blueprint is the right one for me?
Trust your resonance. You've done the quiz, read the emails, and read the description on the page. If it feels true for you, it likely is. That said - we all carry all four blueprints to some degree. Your blueprint is simply the most pressing attachment need you have right now. That will change as you heal and grow, which is part of the reason why the full series is often the deeper choice for people committed to this work over time.
Is this process going to bring up hard emotions?
The most honest answer is yes. Real healing means re-encountering the parts of yourself that were hurt, and that is not always comfortable. This offering has been carefully designed to support this process so that you have the tools and practices right there to help you through. The workshop gives you the map, the integration guide teaches you how to use your daily life to make changes, and the guided practices soothe you, or take you deeper, whenever you need them.
What's the time commitment?
The workshop for each blueprint is two hours. It will give you all the principles and theory to understand the patterns driving you. The guided practices are around 15 minutes each, ideally you do one a day for as long as you need. The Integration Guide shows you how to make micro-adjustments to your life that can create cascades of change. This package is intentionally put together to create significant results while easily fitting into a busy life.
Do I need to be in a relationship to benefit from this?
No. This work has been designed to benefit both singles and couples. Attachment wounding has happened to almost everyone. It's true that the deepest layers of healing often happen inside relationship... but there's also significant foundational work you can do beforehand that changes the shape of every relationship you enter afterward.
How is this different from what I already know about attachment theory?
Attachment theory tends to focus mostly on pathology through diagnosing dysfunction and giving exhaustive lists of traits that fit each attachment style without ever fully addressing the underlying need that's actually driving the behaviour. This body of work addresses attachment at the level of need with the understanding that once that need is able to be fulfilled internally, it then becomes a gift that is offered to relationship rather than something that has to be endlessly fought for.
What are the bonus modules with the Full Series?
There are four blueprints yet only six possible relationship combinations. Same blueprints either do not form relationships with each other, or cause one of the partners to swing to a different blueprint. This is because relationship functions on the principle of polarity, and the blueprints form distinct polarities with each other. The bonus modules explore these potential relationship combinations through the context of dating and relationship. You will be able to see the distinct patterns and challenges that show up in each combination and how to navigate your way through them to a healthier, happier relationship.
Still have questions?
Reach out and we'll point you in the right direction.
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The Attachment Blueprints™
The best time to heal was yesterday.
The next best time is today.