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Become Secure in your relationships
Secure is a 6-module course that helps you unlock the healthy attachment blueprint within you, transforming relationship distress into success—whether you're single or in a partnership.
Why Choose a Membership?
Receive ongoing support, resources, and a community that heals & evolves with you every step of the way.
Embark on an accelerated journey to understand your attachment patterns, heal your wounds, and build the skills for deep, lasting relationships. Secure offers profound insights into relationship dynamics, helping you find clarity and real solutions.
By addressing your nervous system’s insecurities, developing strong boundaries, and transforming the anxious-avoidant cycle into empowered romantic polarity, this course provides the tools to break destructive patterns and finally create healthy, long-term intimacy.
Find Your True Secure
End The Painful Patterns
Learn this powerful framework to understand and transcend relationship challenges, so you can get on with the beautiful life, love and intimacy that you are here to actually experience.
- Understand WHY you are the way you are in relationship
- Understand WHY you always end up dating the same kind of person
- Understand WHY you have the same kind of conflicts and challenges
- Understand WHY relationships always seem to end in the same way
And understand HOW to change it all for good.
The Rise of Attachment Theory
Attachment theory has become really popular in the last couple of years, and with good reason.
I remember when I encountered it for the first time around eight years ago— It made SO MUCH SENSE to the struggles and challenges I was going through.
The push-pull dynamics, the conflict and triggers, the overwhelming anxiety, never quite feeling settled, always on edge, not sure whether to stay in or leave, breaking up and making up—all of it clicked into place as I learned this framework.
A Journey of Deep Understanding
Since then, I’ve invested well over seven years learning about attachment theory. I read so many books, took all the courses I could find, and even studied it at a postgraduate level at university.
Learning about attachment theory provided me with a lot of intellectual knowledge, but it didn’t end the challenges.
Reading all the books and following influencers didn’t stop my triggers or conflicts. I still chased the wrong people, despite knowing all about the traits of the anxious and avoidant... I just had a better way of diagnosing them.
True Healing happens in the Body
Attachment doesn’t happen in the mind; it happens in the body and nervous system.
You can intellectually learn everything about attachment and still get blindsided by triggers, turning relationships into a nightmare of fighting about nothing... except now you just have more ammunition.
Because it’s actually the underlying insecurity in the nervous system causing the anxiety, fear, and dysfunctional coping mechanisms that sabotage intimacy. This has to get resolved in our body, not just in our heads.
With the right tools and practices, we can all become Secure.
Build the Foundation for Lasting Love and Passion
When you're rooted in security, safety, and stability, you unlock the true potential for long-term passion, romance, and deep connection. The Secure course helps you create a reliable foundation, so that love, play, and chemistry aren’t just a fleeting honeymoon phase—they become a sustainable way of life.
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UnderstandYour Attachment Style
Gain deep insight into your unique attachment style, including its specific needs and triggers. Learn how to soothe your attachment patterns and develop the skills necessary to build secure, fulfilling relationships.
Healthy Boundaries
Develop the ability to maintain a clear sense of self, free from enmeshment or codependency. By setting healthy boundaries, you’ll foster both individuality and deep connection in your relationships.
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Self-Esteem & Confidence
Build a strong sense of self-worth, so you can stand up for yourself with confidence. The course helps you cultivate the inner security needed to navigate relationships from a place of empowerment.
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Vulnerability & Communication
Master the art of vulnerability, expressing your inner world, needs, and desires with clarity. Learn how to listen deeply and validate others, creating a space for honest and transformative communication.
Course Modules
The six modules are designed to build upon one another, providing a thorough understanding and practice of developing a Secure attachment system. Each module includes psychoeducational theory, guided Inner Somatic Processing practices, Self-Awareness Reflective Exercises and a LIVE workshop.
Get The Secure Course TodayAnxiety & Avoidance Axis
This module explores the first axis of attachment—how anxious attachers move toward others in distress, while avoidants pull away. Neither is inherently wrong, but they often trigger one another, creating tension in relationships. Here, you'll uncover your own patterns and learn how to move from dysfunctional reactions to healthy, functional responses in intimacy.
Preoccupation & Dismissiveness
In this module, we explore two primary responses to distress: preoccupation, where we seek closeness, and dismissiveness, where we push others away. These strategies often damage intimacy by creating tension and distance. You’ll learn new approaches that foster holistic, healthy intimacy, moving beyond the outdated patterns that undermine connection.
Pathways To Healing
Discover the four attachment styles in the Evolve Relating model: Preoccupied Anxious, Covert Anxious, Fearful Avoidant, and Dismissive Avoidant. Each style has its own unique needs, fears, and healing pathways. You’ll map your personal journey while gaining compassion for the other styles.
Boundaries & Attachment
Boundaries are energetic, embodied, and relational. In this module, we’ll explore the distinct boundary patterns of each insecure attachment style and bring them into healthy, functional alignment. The stronger your boundaries, the healthier your relationships.
Attachment & Polarity
This module explores the challenge of balancing the need for attachment with maintaining erotic polarity. You’ll learn how to untangle dysfunctional attachment patterns from masculine-feminine polarity, freeing yourself from toxic infatuation and conflict cycles.
Integrating Forward
In this final module, you’ll consolidate your understanding of attachment and integrate the tools and skills you've gained. You’ll leave with a clear path forward, equipped to navigate relationships with greater confidence, ease, and grace.
Course Inclusions
6 Modules of Psychoeducational Theory
These are insight-based theory lectures, allowing you to have multiple “aha” moments… the better you understand something, the easier it is to change and grow it. All growth starts with knowledge, and then becomes embodied through practice and experience.
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Pre-recorded Integrated Somatic Processing sessions
Six deep guided meditation practices that you can do on your own time. These practices take you deep into yourself, unlocking embedded trauma and realigning you to your natural, and beautiful, unwounded self.
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Powerful Insight Practices
The practices in Secure help you gain clarity on your insecure attachment patterns, and guide you into new and healthy responses. Awareness plus practice is what creates lasting transformation. These practices have both partnered (you can do it with anyone not just a romantic partner) and solo versions.
Group Coaching Session Recordings
These coaching sessions recorded from the live course featured some amazing questions about attachment, intimacy and relationship that were answered with laser precision. You will find answers to many of the questions you might have featured here.
Pricing Options
Gain access to the course, meditations, practices & recordings immediately
* Pay in full or 2 monthly payments of $250
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Damien is the founder of Evolve Relating. He has been facilitating, teaching and coaching for 10+ years. His gift is in the synthesising of complex concepts into practical ways to grow. He weaves together authentic relating, attachment theory, developmental psychology, polarity and awakening techniques into a holistic system of relational transformation.
Ready to Become Truly Secure?
End the relationship suffering and step into the life and love you are meant to experience.
